lovability

All of us want to love on people who we think are lovable and worthy of our love..

this creates its own love deficiencies
.a vicious circle.....
the lovable keeps getting love, and becomes more and more lovable....
and because we wont want to love somebody who is not lovable..
the unlovable always remains unlovable....
an untouchable

is there any way out of this one? 

being loving towards such a person,  seems self defeating, mostly such people shut themselves from receiving love..they have so little faith in the sustainability of the love being offered.

i was once in this restaurant, where the waiter was a middle aged man of around 50..it was a small udipi restaurant, and this person (bare feet all the time...no idea why) who seemed a very efficient and a very senior guy, was going out of his way to be rude to everybody in general, it was so evident he seemed to have a bone to pick with the whole world, and daring the whole world to dare him to start something which would then give him the justification to hate the world...funny part was, even as he was being so unlovable, it seemed his every pore was crying, redeem me, love me in spite of myself...prove to me, that even i am worthy of being loved.

the least i cud do was not take offense at his rude behavior. not because i wanted to avoid a confrontation, but because that was the least i could do,..I  could not think of anything beyond this feeble gesture..