approval seekers

How many of us are subtle approval seekers?in our day to day life... isnt it because of it, that we are loathe to criticism? that we cant take criticism kindly? stretched further, isn't approval seeking a kind of 'running away from responsibilities'

 

I am introspecting, and as usual, its negative incidents that makes me introspect, and this time its my friend, who has had a bee in her bonnet for quite some time, about my lack of cooking skills..not that she is a great chef, but she THINKS she is a great cook, and i dont point it out to the contrary, since i hate to put anybody down, and cooking or lack of it, either way is totally unimportant to me....

she has passed snide remarks for six or seven times now, in two three months, but yesterday, when she made fun of my cooking in front of my hubby, i lost it..they were discussing bese bele bhath, and i joined a bit late to hear bisi..i thot they were discussing a chit fund...when she laughed....".u must not even be knowing what BBB is!"

"who do u two think u are? i growled....two big cooks(my hubby thinks he is a great cook too btw).... who know everything and nobody else knows anything".

she was immediately, why are u yelling..and then i was like, why do u need to make fun of others so called in capacities, in order to feel good about urself, and she was like, i didnt mean anything and so on and so forth.

later when i introspected, i felt, that somewhere i did feel discomfited that i did not measure up to 'her' standards of cooking, and hence my negative reaction..(.mind u, i care a damn about cooking, anybody's cooking unless he is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy above normal, in my independent state).

which to me translated, that unknowingly i am seeking some approval, even in areas as unimportant as cooking.

hence the above questions..   

I am forced to admit, that, if i was not approval seeking,then my reaction would have been different..

maybe i wud have been amused, not angry.......and said, something like.... hey, i do know what BBB is, and btw, and as far as im concerned, cooking is the least of my priorities, which is why u find me lacking in that area.